“What not to do”

Here are some of the “what not to does” on a romance tour.

• Here’s some practical advice: don’t write to too many women before going on the tour. If you do write, make your letter short and don’t invest too much emotional energy into letter writing. I listened to one tour client on a webcast say, “I just had to write the ladies because if I didn’t it felt like I was jumping out of an airplane without a parachute”.  I know guys it is hard not to write the ladies because of the insecurity of the unknown. Believe me! You will have plenty of dates once you are on the tour.

• Do not dismiss a woman who is 15 to 20 years younger than you. The American men seem to have a bigger mental problem with age differences. But outside the US it is normal and socially acceptable for the woman to be 15 to 20 years younger than her husband. So if you find yourself connecting with a younger woman relax you never know she could be the “one.” Don’t let age get in the way of true love!

• Do not let the lady plan the date. It is important for you to be in control of where the date will be and if any friends or family will be present. You do not want to put yourself in a place where you are not comfortable with the surroundings. If she invites many friends or family you could find yourself alone and maybe in an unfamiliar location.

• When you meet the ladies at the socials or on a date be yourself. Your conversations should be natural and not sound like an interview. The purpose of the social is to see if there is chemistry and if you both have some common interest. Treat the ladies with respect. They are there for the same reason you are. Show the woman you are interested in her and allow the conversation to flow naturally. You want to show yourself in best possible light to attract the lady and generate interest in you. Remember it is a two way street. Just because the ladies are single and available doesn't mean you will be successful.

• An interpreter can be a very important tool in getting to know your date and building a solid relationship. But here’s an important tip: only use professional interpreters that you choose.  You may ask why use an interpreter that you choose? If the lady brings a friend to translate, more often than not you will find that you will be the third wheel. Can you really trust her friend to translate what you say properly?

• Do not take the lady you are interested in shopping. Spend your time getting to know her personality, thoughts, and feeling. Take her on a shopping date can cause problems she might get the idea that you are trying to buy her affection, and/or she might expect you to continue giving her many gifts in the future. In addition, you might attract a woman who is only interested in your money and materialistic things.

• Do not be too quick to react negative to something she might have said. Make sure you understood what she was trying to say to you. Many times you will find out that there was miscommunication from the translation between the two languages or cultural differences. You would hate to end a relationship because of a miscommunication. You never know she could have been the “one”.